What can I say about this holiday season? Everyone I know has less money this year. Some have none. I fall somewhere between those two. Less money means less spending. For our family, there is no spending frenzy this year. And guess what I’ve discovered: that’s a good thing. Without even planning to do so, we’ve spent more time with each other, just loving and supporting, babysitting the kids, laughing together, cooking homemade dinners.
In our family, Rick and I are the hub of the wheel, and holiday time usually means making sure we’ve covered every wish list, every stocking stuffer, every cute thing that reminds us of one of the children or grandchildren or friends or family members. It embarrasses me how much we buy for each other here in America, like we owe it to each other or need to prove our love by the quantity and quality of gifts. Intellectually, I know this. Emotionally, I fall for it every time, hook, line, and sinker. We already have so much stuff we regularly host garage sales to get rid of it, and then we start the process over: buying, using, selling, buying . . . buying . . . buying . . . . When will we learn?
Our grandson was nestled on my lap watching a movie with our family. I was so content just to hold him. He’s almost seven, so my holding days are numbered. While we watched, he would occasionally touch my face with his hand, absentmindedly, as if to make sure it was really me. After a long time he got up and said, “Mimi, I need my grandpa,” and trotted over to sit on Rick’s lap. It makes my heart sing to know that down where it counts, what we really need is each other.
If we could have one wish to make anything come true, including one more day with those who have already passed on, I doubt whether we would use it on material things. What wouldn’t I give to have one more day with my daddy? So, this year, I am not going to focus on what I don’t have, what I can’t afford to buy. I’m going to revel in those special moments with family and friends, and maybe make some more friends. I’m going to thank God every moment I can for his blessings.
Just thinking about it makes my heart sing.